Tips for Moms’ who feel they are always missing out

Are there any moms out there that feel like you are constantly missing out on all the fun? motherhood FOMO (fear of missing out) can be such a sucky thing especially when all your close friends are single women with no kids and their priorities are way off from yours. The first couple years after I had Simi I struggled coming to terms with the fact that my life was going to change so much, and I would be missing out on all the single girl turn up. To be honest one of the reasons I struggled to adjust was because of that, mentally I just wasn’t ready to be a mom and I couldn’t see myself giving up on all my “luxuries” I was used to. A few things that I have learnt as I have gotten more mentally mature as a mother is:

• Realizing that the place I am in life is where my life is suppose to be and appreciating and enjoying it
• Having real friends who understand the space I am in my life. I have been lucky to make wonderful friends that have become like family and they are very respectful of my role as a mom and wife knowing that it comes first and that takes up most of my life. 
• Stop comparing my situation with other moms. Let’s be real I get so jealous seeing other moms enjoying those wonderful mommy trips and getting to have plenty of baby free days, but you know what I have come to realize is their life is different from mine and I don’t know what type of help or family dynamic they have so I can’t compare
• And lastly realizing these are part of the joys of motherhood, nothing good ever came to those who didn’t have to give up something.

And the wonderful thing about life, it always comes full circle. Right now I might feel like I am missing out on all the fun, but very soon the shoe will fall on the other foot and I get to be the one living my best life.